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Depression In Teenagers & Children

DEPRESSION in Teenagers and ChildrenA whilereading, who used to sit and listen, now gets
ago I did a blog about Adult depression.up and wanders around.10) Becomes disruptive
While doing the research on Adult depression,in class (both teens and children).11) Finds
I learned quite a bit of information aboutit harder to stay on task. Loses
depression in general, in addition to what Iconcentration  easily;  is
already knew because I suffer from this
condition myself. What I didn't know,mentally confused. Finds decisions difficult
however, is just how prevelant this conditionto make. In a child this might look like the
is in the population at large, and infollowing: unable to match blocks by color
children and teens in specific. One sourcewhen s/he could before; unable to choose
said that depression is close to the topbetween playing ball and jumping rope when
psychological condition in the western worldthe child ALWAYS choose playing ball before.
(more about what this means in a later blog;You can think of your own examples, I'm
it'll take a whold blog to talk about whatsure.12) Cannot remember commitments -
this means).This article will cover thedoesn't keep appointments (teen). As a child,
following: teenager and children depressionforgets to bring papers home when s/he ALWAYS
statistics; teenager and children - specificused to do so; forgets home address/telephone
depression symptoms (for "general" symptoms,number when s/he has known them for months
check out the Adult blog), and, what you, asyears; etc.13) Has difficulty staying still
the parent and/or gaurdian, can do if youor conversely, is lethargic (sluggish). This
recognize the symptoms in one of yours.would apply to both a teen and a child. You
(Remember, the following information comescan picture, in your mind, the teen or child
from many Internet sources.)TEENAGER ANDin constant motion; twitching, shaking a
CHILDREN DEPRESSION STATISTICSAs many as 8.3%foot, or both feet; handling things; etc. OR,
of teenagers in the U.S. suffer fromthe teen or child who sits or lays with that
depression.thousand yard stare again. AND, again, this
is unusual behavior for your teen or
Suicide is the third leading cause of deathchild.14) Changes in relationships with
in teenagers.As many as one in every 33family and friends. Usually, this change
children and approximately one in 8manifests itself in hostility, or in
adolescents may have depression. (Center forpassivity. Arguing when s/he didn't before;
Mental Health Services, 1996; these data haveor, using the "whatever" answer, when s/he
increased over the past 9 years).Treatment ofused to talk to you. (Again, don't single
major depression is as effective for childrenthis one symptom out; it must be one of many
as it is for adults. (Dr. Graham Emslie,symptoms that your teen or child has.)15)
American Medical Association, Archives ofStops going out with friends; shows no
General Psychiatry, November 15, 1997).Twentyinterest in group outings.16) Increase or
years ago depression in children was almostdecrease in sexual activity (hopefully, an
unknown. Now the fastest rate of increase inOLDER TEEN).17) May start associating with a
depression is among young people. (I don'tdifferent peer group (that "bad influence"
know about you, but this statistic scares megroup as a teen; the "rowdy" kids as a
the most!)The statistics on teen depressionchild).18) Loses interest in activities which
are sobering. Studies indicate that one inonce were fun.19) More conflicts with parents
five (1 in 5) children have some sort ofand siblings than usual.20) Changes in eating
mental, behavioral, or emotional problem, andand sleeping habits.21) Expresses
that one in ten (1 in 10) may have a seriousinappropriate guilt, feelings of not being
emotional problem.What is even more chillinggood enough, worthlessness, failure. (I can
is that of all these children and teenssee this in a teen; not sure how this would
struggling with emotional and behaviorallook in a child. If you can, please let us
problems, a mere 30% receive any sort ofknow.)22) Expresses hopelessness and having
intervention or treatment. The other 70%nothing to look forward to.23) Speaks in a
simply struggle through the pain of mentalmonotonous or monosyllabic manner.24) Has a
illness or emotional turmoil, doing theirpreoccupation with self; is withdrawn.25)
best to make it to adulthood. Many theorizeCries easily, looks sad, feels alone or
that this is why the suicide rate in teens isisolated.26) Has fears about having to be
so high. Suicide is the third (3rd) leadingperfect.27) Fearful of doing something bad.
cause of death among young people ages 15 toThis, in a child, could manifest itself as
24. Even more troubling, it is the sixthbedwetting after YEARS of not bedwetting;
(6th) leading cause of death among childrenfear of darkness or "things that go bump in
ages 5-14.The consequences of untreatedthe night" after YEARS of no fear, etc.28)
depression can be:increased incidence ofIncidents of self-injury. Ideas of killing
depression  in  adulthood;self. (I have no idea of how this would look
for a child, and hope never to have such an
involvement  in the criminal justice system;idea!)WHAT A PARENT/GUARDIAN CAN DOThe two
most important things a parent can do for
or in some cases, suicide.WHAT ARE THE TEENyour child/teen is to first, KNOW YOUR TEEN
CHILDREN DEPRESSION SYMPTOMS?As we see above,CHILD'S ROUTINE, AND NORMAL DAILY ACTIVITIES
treatment (i.e., counseling, therapy, or evenso that you can identify any changes; and,
medical intervention, if needed) forLISTEN:1) listen when your children talk;2)
depression is as effective for teens/childrenlisten to their music;3) spend more time with
as it is for Adults. Let me state that again;them and be involved in their activities;4)
research from a variety of sources indicatestake them to movies and concerts, and discuss
that appropriate treatment for depression inthem afterward;5) know their friends, and
a teen and/or a child is as effective as itlisten to them, as well;6) do not lecture or
is for Adults. So, what, as a parent oroffer unsolicited advice, or ultimatums;
gurdian, should we look for? What are theand,7) do not try to talk them out of their
symptoms of real depression, and not just afeelings; instead, ask them if they can
"bad mood"?"Real Depression" - the type thatdescribe their feelings.It goes without
needs immediate and appropriate attention -saying, but I'll say it anyway, learn the
in teenagers and in children is defined as:above symptoms and know your teen/child. Here
when the feelings of depression persist andare some more things that you, the parent or
interfere with the teen's/child's ability toguardian can do.8) If a child, go to their
function in his/her normal daily activities.day care periodically, and lern their
This doesn't mean that one should ignore aroutine; ask the teachers to alert you if
teen's/child's bad mood if it lasts for a fewtheir routine changes.9) If a teen, go to ALL
days or a few weeks. What it does mean isof your teen's teacher conferences to learn
that, at a minimum, you, the parent/guardianthe patterns of the normal school day, and
must know enough about your teen's/child'sask to be alerted immediately to changes.10)
normal daily activities so that you can knowFor both teens and children, know their
when there are changes. OK, what coversfriends; see if your home can become the
"normal daily activities" for a teen/child?"gathering place"; get to know the parents of
(And, in this, we are sticking to Americanyour child's or teen's friends and agree to
generic teens/children, because that's what Ilet each other know if you see any changes in
am most famaliar with. If anyone can add tobehavior.11) In all cases, keep a diary of
this list, please do so.)As you read throughany changes that you see, so that you will be
this list, remember that your teen/child hasable to discuss the situation with great
to have "a siginficant" number of theseclarity and specificity with professionals,
symptoms; they have to be ongoing, out ofshould the need arise.12) Respond with love,
character; and impair the teen's/child'skindness, and support if you think that your
normal daily activities (sound familiar?)1)child/teen is experiencing problems that can
Snapping at people for no apparent reason -lead to depression.13) Let your child or teen
being irritable at everyone.2) Physically orknow that you are there, whenever she or he
verbally aggressive at everyone.3) Abandoningneeds you, and do so often and in
favorite hobbies or sports or other routine,age-specific (as Dr. Phil would say) ways.14)
daily activities.4) Increased passive TVKeep trying, but gently, if your teen shuts
watching (where the teen/child has thatyou out (depressed teenagers do not want to
"thousand yard stare" and is not interactingfeel patronized or crowded).15) Do not
with the programs).5) Increased risk-taking;criticize or pass judgment, once the child or
e.g., dangerous driving; climbing too high inteen begins to talk (the important thing is
a tree and jumping, breaking something; otherthat he or she is talking and communicating
repeated unusually dangerous activities.6)feelings). REMEMBER, NEVER CRITICIZE
Misuse of drugs and alcohol. ParticularlyFEELINGS; everyone has the right to their
teens, who use drugs and alcohol to "escape".feelings, even if you think that they are
(1)7) Changes in school behaviors (including"wrong". Let them be voiced; if
training courses and work settings) forinapproptiate, seek professional
teens; changes in interpersonal behaviors andassistance.16) Encourage activity and praise
activities in a pre-school setting (i.e.,efforts.17) Seek help from a doctor or mental
used to like to color and play with clay; nowhealth professional, if the teen's or child's
just sits in a corner, holding a stuffed toydepressed feeling doesn't pass with time (be
and sucking a thumb).8) Frequent absencesprepared to list behaviors, note how long and
from school; poorer grades than formerlyhow often they have been occurring, and how
attained; increase in skipping classes; etc.severe they seem - hence, the diary mentioned
For a child, reversion in activities (i.e.,above).18) Do not wait and hope that symptoms
used to color within the lines, now justwill go away on their own. Better to seek
scribbling on paper; intentionally breakingassistance and be told that your teen/child
things, etc.)9) Complains of being boredis fine than to let your teen/child become
(teen); a child whose attention waivers whenone of the 70% who never receive help.
it didn't before. A child who, during a group



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