The Secrets of Real Happiness

As mentioned in my previous post What Is Realgym, jogging, swimming, yoga, aerobics, Pilates, and
Happiness, there are paradoxes surrounding wealthanything that works your body and gets you perspiring.
and happiness, which drive everyone to its pursuit. TheSound minds reside in sound bodies. Read my post
reality is, there are sufficient evidences to show a"Why I Wake Up At 6 am Every Morning" on my
significant disconnect between wealth and well-being.experiences benefiting from daily morning run.
Based on the research findings, you will know thatHave Enough Rest. Happy people live active vigorous
happiness can be elusive and yet attainable.lives yet reserve time for renewing sleep and solitude.
The following are suggestions on how you canMany people suffer from sleep deficiency, with
increase your happiness:resulting fatigue, diminished alertness, and gloomy
Realize That Wealth Does Not Create Permanentmoods. If insomnia is the cause, try to restore balance
Happiness. People adapt to changingin life, exercise regularly, have proper diet, get a
circumstances-even to wealth or a disability. Thusmassage, practice yoga and meditation.
wealth is like health: Its utter absence breeds misery,Give Priority to Close Relationships. Intimate friendships
but having it (or any circumstance we long for) doesn'twith those who care deeply about you can help you
guarantee happiness.weather difficult times. Confiding is good for soul and
- "The mind of every man, in a longer or shorter time,body. Resolve to nurture your closest relationships: to
returns to its natural and usual state of tranquillity. Innot take those closest to you for granted, to display to
prosperity, after a certain time, it falls back to thatthem the sort of kindness that you display to others, to
state; in adversity, after a certain time, it rises up to it."affirm them, to play together and share together.
- Adam Smith, The Theory of Moral Sentiments, 1759Focus Beyond Self. Reach out to those in need.
Be Your Own Time Master. Happy people are masterHappiness increases helpfulness (those who feel good
of time management, and hence often feel in controldo good). As true as the saying "what goes around
of their lives. It helps to set goals and break them intocomes around", doing good also makes one feel good.
daily aims. Although we often overestimate how muchBeing opened to the needs of surrounding people also
we will accomplish in any given day (leaving ushelp you avoid dwelling in your own misery.
frustrated), we generally underestimate how much weBe Grateful. People who keep a gratitude journal-who
can accomplish in a year, given just a little progresspause each day to reflect on some positive aspect of
every day.their lives (their health, friends, family, freedom,
Be Happy, Even Deliberately. We can deliberately puteducation, senses, natural surroundings, and so on.)
ourselves into a frame of mind by starting it withexperience heightened well-being.
physical action. When you feel moody, look at the- "I cried because I had no shoes," states a Persian
mirror and put on a bright smile to yourself. It ignites thesaying, "until I met a man who had no feet."
energy of joyful emotion, which makes you feel betterLearn Not To Compare. Most of the misery of people
and trigger subsequent positive moods. When youcomes from comparing with others who are better or
meet people outside, your energy can be felt byhave more. This is the definite source of discontent
people and brings forth mutually contagious effect. Soand a perpetual sense of lack. It may continue to drive
put on a happy face. Talk like someone with highyou to achieve more, but for the wrong reasons. It is
self-esteem, optimistic, and outgoing. Once you golike the rat on the treadmill, constantly chasing its tail
through the motions, it can trigger the emotions. Asuntil exhaustion. It puts a person on over-drive without
Mary Kay said: "Fake it until you make it"any sense of fulfillment. If there is any happiness from
Align Work with Passion. As mentioned in my previousachieving, it is often fleeting. When you stop comparing
post Experiencing Flow State, happy people often arewith others, you get started on the path of freedom.
in a psychological state called "in the zone" called "in- "Our poverty became a reality. Not because of our
the flow" - when one is completely absorbed in a taskhaving less, but by our neighbors having more."
that challenges them yet without overwhelming them.- Will Campbell, Brother to a Dragonfly, 1977
Most of the expensive forms of leisure (such as sittingNurture Your Spiritual Self. For many people, faith
on a yacht) provide less flow experience thanprovides a support community, a reason to focus
gardening, playing musical instruments, painting, keepingbeyond self, and a sense of purpose and hope. Study
fish, socializing, or craftwork.after study finds that actively religious people are
Be Physically Active. It has become a known fact thehappier and that they cope better with crises.
exercise not only promotes health and energy, it is alsoMay you live a life of pure and permanent happiness!
an antidote for mild depression and anxiety. Go for