Coping with the Bipolar Child

Any parent knows once you have been thrown intothings that could get done during their low periods. This
the throngs of parenting that raising children is at timesgives them a goal for the day. By the same token, be
an insurmountable task. Add to the mix a child withready and prepared to "reel" them in, if their grand
Bipolar Disorder and you have a formula for a lifetimeideas or desires become to high in the sky for them to
ofattain. For this it is a good idea to find a creative outlet
overwhelming feelings.Coping with the Bipolar Childto help them through this high time.Share with your
does not need to take its toll on you or your family.other children about this disorder, giving them a good
The key to understanding children with Bipolar Disorderidea what this child goes through each day. Help the
is to become as fully educated on the disorder asother children to identify those periods of the day,
possible, and to develop key resources and copingwhen the highs and lows occur. It becomes almost a
mechanisms within your family. It also helps if the othergame for the other children to ride on the coattails of
children, if old enough to understand, are brought intothe bipolar child when they are acting out their disorder.
the education process and become well informed ofSometimes creating a "signal" helps them to
the behaviors of their sibling.I once had a Bipolarunderstand when these times occur, and to either lend
Student and her mother helped explain it to me thisa hand, or steer clear.One thing I learned from my
way. An adult with Bipolar Disorder rides a rolleryears of foster care, is to expect that if the child is
coaster through life. It has a tendency to ride a highdoing great in the classroom and school situation, then
and low over a period of about 20-30 days. However,home life will be a challenge and vise versa. It is too
a child with Bipolar Disorder rides the roller coastermuch to expect peace on both fronts. Identify, prepare
every day. Add to that the raging hormone changesand understand were always my mottos.Another huge
starting as early as 10 or 11 years of age, and youcoping mechanism is to create time for yourself. You
have a ride that is difficult to control even withneed this time on a weekly basis to refresh and revive
medication. The medication needs monitoredyourself. A couple of times a month, find a time for the
constantly and adjusted regularly.Some of the copingother family members to have special time apart from
mechanisms that you as parents or educators canthe bipolar Child. This also gives this child "special time"
use, is to help the child lead as structured a life asalone with another adult or with another support
possible. This helps them to not feel overwhelmed withfamily.Putting just a few of these suggestions in place
places to go, things to do, and expectations. Aswill help you enjoy a happier, more stable environment
parents our expectations are most often timesfor you, your family and your Bipolar child.Sue Mueller is
grander than our children can handle at mosta parent to four grown children. She and her husband
times.Helping the child to create a positive "Look Whathave also been foster parents to 25 other children
I did Today!" attitude will help to overcome thethroughout the last 20 years.
immense feelings of failure. Focus on one or two